I have had the hardest time concentrating the last few days. I don't know if it's Mercury Retrograde or Consciousness shifts, but I found myself muttering, "I'm my own worst enemy" as I dragged myself away from yet another distracting activity.
Earlier this week I'd talked with a client about self care and suggested that she could parent herself. She could care for her inner child so that it didn't take over her life, keeping her from doing what she really wants to do. The parent image didn't work for her, but being her own favorite aunt did. A caring and loving aunt that could suggest better actions for her to choose.
|Are you your Friend or your Enemy? (photo: fae)|
At the end of the day, it isn't our relationship with our family, our friends, or our significant other that really affects our reality. It's our relationship with ourself.
How are you being with yourself? How are you treating yourself? Notice your inner dialogue. What are you saying? Are criticizing or complementing? Are you complaining or cheering yourself on?
Most of us react unconsciously to our inner voices. We feel that circumstances are beyond our control.
It's true that we can control others, and that it's useless to try to change, fix or manipulate the scenery or the storyline. But we can become aware of our inner narrative, and start to recognize what aspect of ourselves is dominating our inner world. We can then stop the habitual thoughts, replace them with consciously chosen ones.
We can treat ourselves are our own best friend. We can be on our side. We can lovingly take care of ourselves.
If you find yourself being overly critical, stop. Grab yourself by the ears (literally or figuratively) and replace it with kind and affirming words.
If you find yourself whining or complaining, stop. Gentle put your hands on your shoulders (mentally or actually), and tell yourself how capable you are, that you can rise above anything that's happening.
If you've gotten yourself into a situation that's not good for you, take charge as the one who has your best interest at heart and get yourself out of it!
When you start to actively be your own best friend, it changes all aspects of your life. You make different choices with food and activities. You treat yourself better, and then others do as well. You become more prosperous because you know you are worth it. Your inner value grows, and so does your bank account.
You are the one who is going to be with you for the rest of your life (and afterwards).
The truth is, you love yourself. You as Essence, absolutely adores you, your body/personality. It may be a little challenging at first to interrupt a long standing pattern of thought of behavior. But after a couple weeks, you will find it totally transforming your life.
Try this for the next 7 days and see what happens!