Showing posts with label Values. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Values. Show all posts

Friday, June 1, 2018

True Confessions on Time, Energy, and Money.

Time, Energy, and Money ©2018 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

My husband took the week off from work, before letting me know. I had a Telesummit scheduled for Tuesday, and my radio show Wednesday, plus my regular calls and meetings, so my calendar was super busy.

I work from home and it was challenging to maintain my focus with him being in ‘staycation mode’. I made it through the Telesummit but when my radio show co-host suggested that we air a rerun rather than a live show, I heartily agreed.
In Port Townsend, the house behind us is haunted!

After completing my regular calls Thursday, hubby and I took a “daycation” up to historic Port Townsend, and yet on the way I had this nagging feeling I was playing hooky - that I should be working.

Now here’s the thing, I work for myself, I work from home, my schedule is entirely my own. No one's gonna fire me for taking a day off.

I decided to record our show live on Wednesdays (although we do have to fit into an available spot in our radio station’s lineup), I decide I write my blog and send out my Ezine on Fridays. I choose to host Meetups on Saturdays or Sundays, I usually film my YouTube videos on Tuesdays (although the last two weeks I didn’t, due to the upcoming Telesummit).

True Confessions: NONE of these activities actually PAY ME. They’re all designed to support, help and enlighten others. And if someone decides to hire me for coaching, great.

Ironically, a lot of people I work with have money issues. When we shine a light on them, it often reveals they have trouble with their focus on time, and how they spend their energy.

Sometimes they have six figure incomes, but are miserable. They either hate their jobs, or hate their commutes. Or they’re spinning their wheels trying to make an income, feeling like they're going nowhere. They struggle with compulsive spending, credit cards, or underearning and deprivation.
They have confusion about the money or debt they do have, and vagueness about where their time is going.

As they gain clarity about their numbers and their actions, their circumstances rapidly improve. They feel feel more prosperous and abundant with less effort and stress. Because it actually isn't about the money, it's about the quality of their lives and relationships.

I spend my time and energy in ways that prioritize my relationships with my husband and now adult kids. I make choices based on my expanded perspective as Consciousness. I have a prosperous life and feel wealthy with my relationships.

My coach describes his schedule as "fiercely lifestyle friendly", which basically means that if it's going to compromise his values, he isn't going to do it.

I suspect he uses the word 'fiercely' because of the enormous morphic "work ethic" field that says you have to put in long hours, with a lot of effort and sacrifice in order to create a good life.

That nagging feeling I had yesterday? I was reacting to the same message, same morphic field.

As with anything in this world, the opposite is true.

The harder you try to attain something, the farther away it will be. Effort kills creativity. We give up so much power to these 'work ethic' ideals and completely miss the point that we're Infinite Beings and this world is our playground.

Realize that *you* are Consciousness and all the power is within you, not out there.

If you work a job-job, try being there as Consciousness, and see how it alters the experience for you. You may find it being more playful and fun.

If you're looking work, try approaching the interviews as Consciousness, and see how the dynamic changes.

Try prioritizing what's important to you, rather than what you think the world thinks is important, and watch how rapidly your life reorganizes in your favor.

When you use your time and energy as the infinitely creative and powerful Consciousness that you are, your world transforms.

Play with this for the next 7 days, and see what happens!




Friday, October 7, 2016

Ethics, Values, and Morals (and Consciousness)

Ethics, Values, and Morals (and Consciousness) ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

"A person who knows the difference between right and wrong and chooses right is moral. A person whose morality is reflected in his willingness to do the right thing – even if it is hard or dangerous – is ethical. Ethics are moral values in action" from http://managementhelp.org/blogs/business-ethics/2012/01/02/what-are-values-morals-and-ethics/

An exercise I do with new clients is called 'Values Clarification'. It helps them determine their top 5-10 values and then they're able to use it as an assessment for how satisfied they are with their lives. It is also a tool for making choices and taking actions. If you have a high value on relationship but you spend your days debugging software alone in your office, you're not going to be very satisfied with your job (no matter how much Microsoft pays you).

Values are one thing, but ethics and morals brings the conversation to a new level.
GPS Photo by Darren Meacher

Consciousness is neutral. There's no good or bad from the perspective of Consciousness. This confuses people. If that's the case, then I can just start careening down my path treating people like shit and stealing from the government ("taxes, I don't need no stinkin' taxes"). Because I AM Consciousness and this is all an illusion so it doesn't really matter.

The mind that is thinking that way isn't Consciousness.

True, Consciousness is neutral. Consciousness is impassive. Consciousness doesn't get caught up in drama or detail. Consciousness is also Love. Consciousness loves *everything* and *everyone*.

[LOL, I got an 'Error' message right at this point of writing and quickly copied what I'd written before having to reload]

Although it is all an entertaining creation to Consciousness, it doesn't mean it's not real. I love my plants, my pets, including my fish tank. I created them to be in my life. I love my kids, I manufactured their bodies but they are taking their lives and running with them. And I feel unconditional love for them, regardless what they do.

...that's the parental perspective of Consciousness...

When I truly step into the perspective of myself Consciousness, the creator of my reality, it's a little different. I feel no need to try to change, fix or manipulate the hologram I've created to experience physical reality. I don't need to treat people like shit, if anything, I feel Compassion, because we are all Consciousness.

As Consciousness, I'm One, so for fun, I've created individuality, the sense of otherness. You could say this whole world is Consciousness playing with itself.

So the right and wrong thing. Although there is no right or wrong as Consciousness, there is light and dark in the physical realm. You navigate this using your inner Moral compass.

This Moral compass gets distorted much the same way as a little boy scout's compass can be affected by magnets. It's not pointing true north if you're feeling extreme emotionalism. If you're feeling that others are wrong when you are right. That's not your moral compass, that's your body/ personality/ intellect/ mind.

I know I'm navigating with my moral compass when I feel clarity. I may love this person but if they're sleeping with someone else, it's pretty clear we're not in an exclusive relationship. I'm pretty clear I want an exclusive relationship. It's a simple choice to step away from that relationship so I can create the space for what I want.

I may love my family of origin, but I feel insane around the old family behaviors. Clarity helps me with boundaries, how to navigate the holidays. I can go to the family dinner on Christmas eve but I can't do breakfast the next morning with them.

When you align your body/ personality/ intellect/ mind with yourself as Consciousness then your sense of right and wrong becomes clear. Your Moral compass is clearly about You and how You want to navigate life.

If you're staring at someone else's vehicle, you veer into their lane. When you as Consciousness are driving, your eyes are on the road - your path - ahead. You don't need to change how other people are driving.

It feels better to live life as Consciousness. It feels better to stand in the light. It feels better to have clarity.

Notice how you are navigating. Are you steering towards the shadows? Are you tailgating someone who you think is a terrible driver? Is your blinker on or tabs expired?

It's pretty simple to shift your perspective, it just takes doing it.

Try this for the next few days and see what happens!