The Curse of Complacency (and the Gift of Desperation)

The Curse of Complacency (and the Gift of Desperation) ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

One of the times where we can get stuck on our spiritual path is when everything seems to be going well. We have enough to get by, just not enough to achieve our desires.

We're not in complete survival, but we're not completely happy or satisfied. But we're so better off than (where we were, where others are, where we could be)...

It can actually be a pretty horrible place to exist. And people can stay here for years.

Sweet Briar College, 1920

Complacency is like a big, goosedown duvet covering you and your life - on a warm, summer's day.

Sometimes we're stuck in complacency as a result of trauma. We're not really complacent, we're numb. We're afraid to move. We're terrified of risking our status quo.

A clue to being in this state is - how clear are your dreams and desires? When we're in fear, our vision for the future is a winning lotto ticket, prince charming, someone or something to instantly get you out of this situation.

When we're complacent, we may not even have dreams and desires, we're so disconnected from our essence. Everything looks just fine. What have we to complain about?

Sometimes, as Consciousness, we create an opportunity to break out of this state. Something disastrous happens. A betrayal, a layoff, an accident, a national disaster... it wakes us up.

Sometimes the opportunity creeps up on you, you develop an illness that forces you to tune into your body, a loved one's addiction is revealed, shattering your denial.

Desperation can be a gift, it gets us moving. It gives you the energy to start making positive changes. You can feel more alive in an emergency, because you're more fully present and alert.

And yet some people get addicted to the adrenalin rush of chaos and drama, and instead of breaking out of their rut they dig themselves in even deeper.

Complacency mustn't be confused with the neutrality of Consciousness. At the highest level of Consciousness, there is no good or bad, you're completely detached from pain of what is happening in the physical world. It's like viewing the planet from the International Space Station, you're just in awe of the beauty and wonder of the world.

As Consciousness, we provide opportunities to wake up, and no opinion if we choose to stay asleep. As Consciousness there's no time, so no judgement of how long it's taking.

However, our core purpose for being here is to experience life in the physical, and express ourselves as Consciousness.  If we're numb with complacency or spinning our wheels in continual crisis we're not fully experiencing or expressing from Consciousness.

Now, when we're in our bodies as Consciousness, it feels good. We're enjoying ourselves. We inherently know it's a benevolent Universe. We're amused, we're curious, we're creative.

Our desires look different when we're creating our life as Consciousness. We don't need to be rich and famous. We are rich in relationship, we have prosperous lives.

Our own egos/personalities will hold us back, fearing that if Consciousness is in control, they will die. In truth, an aspect that we may have identified with will dissipate, but we will feel freer and more expansive afterwards.

When we operate as Consciousness, we achieve outcomes greater than old personalities could have imagined.

So if you're in complacency and reading this, know that you have an opportunity to wake up without waiting for a breakdown. You can have a 'high bottom'.

If you're in desperation, use this information to propel you forward to new choices and actions.

You don't have to know how to solve your problems or fix your situation, just take the first step towards the light. Intuitively step towards whatever feels lighter, brighter, clearer, more open. The light is You.

When you connect as Consciousness, you'll find that the answers and solutions have been in You all the time.

Wings with Feet - how to go after your dreams without tripping up!

Wings with Feet - how to go after your dreams without tripping up! ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb

We're in exciting times! We're all experiencing accelerated growth and change. To many people, this feels expansive and empowering. To others, they're completely freaked out.

This increased energy inspires us to go after our dreams. We can see the possibility out in front of us, and we make the quantum leap for it. We take off into the wild, blue yonder as if we had wings.

Making that dream a reality, bringing it back to Earth, requires landing gear.

Heart with Wings by Lederartisan

Some folks are always coming up with good ideas. They charge after them, filled with enthusiasm. Then, a few months down the line, they run out of steam. Their dream evaporates.

Some folks are magnificent planners. They get an idea for their great American novel, then spend the next two years researching it in minute detail. And never write a page.

Manifestation nowadays is easier than ever, so why are results so elusive?

Because the idea folks have wings but no landing gear. And the planners never get off the ground without wings.

Any manifestation requires a vision.  Consciousness communicates with images. Your vision communicates to your higher Consciousness your request. The clearer your vision, the better it is able to come into form.

Although visions can magically happen, the probably won't if you don't take any action. You may not know how your vision is ultimately going to manifest, but baby steps indicate your willingness to receive it.

Planning helps you prepare, helps you create the container to receive your request.  Yet, if you're freaked out by your own creative power, you're not going to bring your idea into form. You'll do a lot of busy work, running in circles, but not produce anything. You'll get distracted and do something else instead.

Making your dreams real require Visions, Actions, and Havingness. Havingness is the ability to have your Vision or desire. It's adjusting your energy so you can have it. Sometimes it requires letting go of everything keeping you from having it. Sometimes it requires you upping your energy to match the desired thing.

If you want to be in a relationship, you may need to clear that pile of books off your bed. You may need to join a few Meetup groups and get out of the house!

If you want to own a home, you may need to drive through a few neighborhoods and imagine what it would be like to live there. (You may also need to check your credit score and talk to a mortgage broker, but Consciousness can bypass some of those details in surprising ways if you're truly aligned).

If you want to increase your prosperity, you may need to look where you're acting impoverished. There's a difference between frugality and deprivation. It may not mean driving the latest BMW when you're buying groceries on credit cards.

Ultimately, expansion comes from within. Your body is your anchor in this reality. It is your focal point as Consciousness. Your dreams come from the realm of Consciousness. They come into form through your body.

Focusing on how you would feel if you had your vision is very powerful. It creates the emotional state within your body to generate the energy to bring it into being.

Play with this over the new few days and see what starts happening!