My Valentine's to U(niverse)

My Valentine's to U(niverse) ©2015 Joan M. Newcomb

Nothing like writing an article about Valentine's day on Friday the 13th...
When I was trying to come up with a catchy title for this article, I thought about doing an anagram on the word love. Evol sounds more like 'evil' than evolve.  It just goes to show that this is a planet of dichotomies.  The physical realm is the opposite of who we really are as Consciousness.  Or is it?

I've written a fair amount on Love, and just did a great Conscious Conversations radio show on the topic. I've experienced falling in love, being in love, loving pets, people, places and things, Love directly with Source.

I think the first time I fully felt the impact of unconditional Love with another human being was when I looked into the eyes of my newborn son. It was a being-to-being opening to something greater in the Universe. Just thinking about that moments shifts me to that infinite connection.

Universal Love

What I notice, when dropping down into that heart connection, is that the world becomes brighter and more clearly in-focus. I truly sense the essential life connection in every surrounding atom and molecule.

As I write about this now, it reminds me of when my mother died. The world became brighter in that same way, as if her life-essence had directly transferred into all the surrounding atoms and molecules.

I know that this world is created from Love, that Consciousness *is* Love, and that is the essential energy behind all of manifestation. I just never realized the link between these experiences, my first direct experience of birth and my first direct experience of death, and Love.

Now, my relationship with my firstborn hasn't been all hearts and flowers. There have been some extremely painful challenges. I had dysfunctional family patterns come up and at times I was a terrible parent. There are things I'll be making amends to him for the rest of our lives. And, there is, inside, a deep, intense, ever-lasting and unconditional Love for this kid (for both my kids), that is the being-to-being connection that transcends the storyline and personalities involved.

Similarly, my relationship with my mother wasn't perfect, although I never resented her not protecting me or not being stronger. The last two years of her life, caretaking her as she had Alzheimer's and cancer, was incredibly difficult.  It aged me physically, took it's toll on my business, and contributed to losing my house. And, the bigger and more important thing, it was an act of Love to midwife her back to Spirit.

With both my kids, I noticed a buildup of Love just prior to their conception.  It was the Being coming into focus in preparation to incarnate into form.

Consciousness *is* Love.  You, as Essence, *are* Consciousness.  YOU are Love.  No matter what is going on in the story of your life, You are Love.  The lifeforce energy that creates and inhabits all matter, is Love.

Imagine bringing your full force of Awareness into your form, imagine your energy coming back from all areas of attention, past, future, all dimensions.Then, from within your space, imagine you radiating Love outwards.

Spend Valentine's Day weekend emanating Love.  Any areas you feel are lacking, imbue them with Love.

Try this for the next 7 days and see how your life unfolds!

Border Crossings

Border Crossings ©2014 Joan M. Newcomb

On this week's radio show, my co-host Janet and I had a chat about boundaries (amongst a lot of other things).  Janet says she doesn't have boundaries, she just lets everything flow.  I certainly agree that's the case with her energy work.  Conversations about website design or marketing email will just as easily end up being distance Matrix on family patterns.

My original clairvoyant training over emphasized "space", which was a huge Catch-22.  We were increasing our psychic sensitivities and yet when we felt someone's energies within us, we'd accuse them of 'beating us up'.

Years later I realized it was my own Empathic ability that allowed me to feel what others were feeling.  They weren't beating me up, they were just having a bad day.

I heard David Spangler say that everyone he meets expands his Universe.  That's so much nicer than everyone you meet 'invades your space'.  In fact, you can't fall in love without merging energies.

When you're operating in the physical realm, grounded into density and effort, walls appear solid.  When you're outside the box, in the realm of Matrix, there are no solids, only potentiality.

If you're grounded into form, the easiest way to have boundaries is to energetically occupy your body and the space surrounding it.  When you're focused in your body, there's no room for anything else.

The strongest "protection" is non-resistance.  When you allow yourself to be relaxed and transparent, energy just flows through.  When you're resisting, you magnetically attract what you don't want, and it sticks.

People who are natural healers, and natural empaths, will take on other's energies.  Sometimes it's just communication, tuning into what other's are projecting towards them.  Sometimes it's an attempt to make others feel better, taking on they're depression, pain, etc. in order to relieve them.

Absorbing other's pain isn't a healing, it's invalidating.  Everyone is Consciousness manifesting in form.  The more capable we are, the more challenging problems we'll create.  If we've created a problem, we have the resource within to remedy it. If someone takes that away from us, it invalidates our capability.

Often the most effective healing is to hold the space for someone else's transformation.  Hold them with open hands, hold them loosely, create a safe space for them to figure it out on their own.

In this new evolution of Conscious, healers are asked to focus within and heal themselves.  It's a challenge when you're knee jerk reaction is healing everyone else!  But by standing still, looking within, and healing yourself, you create a ripple effect outwards to everyone in your 'sphere of influence'.

When you heal yourself, you set a good example.  You give permission to others to heal themselves.

So for the next 7 days I invite you to withdraw your focus from others that need fixing, to your own form and surrounding life.

Try this for the next week and see what happens!