Showing posts with label Holiday. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Holiday. Show all posts

Friday, January 30, 2015

Pattern Disruptors - Stop Painful Interactions NOW!

Pattern Disruptors - Stop Painful Interactions NOW! ©2015 Joan M. Newcomb

We made it through the holidays, but this year has been a doozy so far.  We've stepped up to a new evolution of Consciousness and all sorts of things are coming out of the woodwork.  When you're vibrating at a higher level, things that are dense get dislodged.

It may feel like your foundation is being rocked, or the mortar holding your life together has come loose.  Things that were your anchor points have gone, your own identity may seem to be dissipating.

Circumstances may seem to be creating these changes.  Your relationship, job or home situations may be falling apart (or coming together).  But in reality it's You, your Inner Being, that is shining a brighter light, and everything else is reacting, a ripple effect emanating from You.

What this means is, you can no longer interact with others in the same way.  They may seem to be carrying on things learned from family, but you cannot respond from old expectations.  And yet, when you speak up, stand in your truth, all hell breaks loose.

A while back I wrote about the Bug Zapper technique for keeping your space clear around others.  It's especially useful in situations like weddings, family reunions, any time you are around groups of people where you (or they) may be triggered.  The Bug Zapper eliminates projections coming towards you, but also disintegrates projections coming from you as well.

This is a variation of that technique, but you start with creating a single laser beam, representing one thread of a pattern.  Have it out in front of you, or - if you're feeling the effects of the pattern in a particular place, inside of you at that spot.   And allow it to vibrate.

When I did this recently, I noticed one family member who was carrying on the legacy.  The laser beam initially seemed like a lightning bolt, not meant to zap them, but to zap the pattern.  The threads of connection disappeared and we both looked lighter.

You don't have to know what the pattern is - in fact, it may be more useful not to know, as it opens more possiblities when it's not defined.  You can also use multiple threads; they look like a grid.  You can pass the grid through your energy space, or use it in front of you or to one of the sides.

When I did this, I noticed the energy shifting with someone I care about, and fortunately in a way that eased the matching pain we're experiencing.

This is something you can play with in meditation or when going to sleep at night.  It's helpful to be intuitive and playful about it, not to think too hard.  Be open minded and notice what is different.

As you do this is that your interactions with people get easier.  Situations you may have thought were impossible to change naturally unfolds.  You're not out there doing anything, manipulating circumstances, you're just focusing on vibrating threads.

And, these threads and grids can shrink down to the size of microchips, you can allow them to work within your space without giving a whole lot of attention to them.  Your energy increases, your sense of wellbeing expands.

You are Consciousness and playing with energy this was is how you navigate your life *as* Consciousness!

For more tips, tools & techniques (as well as coaching and classes) on how to navigate with Consciousness, go here!

Try this for the next week and see what happens!


Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Harmonize for Holiday Harmony!

(c) 2009 Joan M. Newcomb

Last Monday was our island's annual Christmas sing-a-long at our local movie theatre.  It's very hokey- a small town affair.  Having lived here nearly 25 years, I have lots of lovely (& uncomfortable) memories of these sing-a-longs.

My earliest is my son Graham at 4 or 5, wearing his cowboy boots (which he lived in during those years) and Santa hat (which remained glued to his head from Thanksgiving through New Years) and running/dancing up and down the theatre aisles while everyone sang.  He's now a 6'4" freshman at Vassar!

My most recent is last year, sitting by myself in a nearly empty theatre, my heart full of loneliness and pain.  A blizzard had snowed us all in, my husband was stranded at his mother's in Bellevue and my kids at their dad's miles away, and I was alone the full seven days up to Christmas morning.  I'd hiked 2 miles into town to participate in the caroling.

This year was totally different, the place was packed and my husband was by my side.  That in itself was a Christmas miracle; he's a devout Buddhist and doesn't like to sing!

While we were singing, I had a revelation which I'd like to share with you - something that may make it easier to get through the rest of the holidays (and life)!

I like to sing alto.  When I was 6 or 7 I joined our school choir and learned the harmonies to all the Christmas songs.  What I felt was, that it was okay to be different.  I was the only American in class (we moved to England when I was 5).  I'm the only girl in my family (3 brothers).  Learning to harmonize, you learn to sing a different tune than others are singing.  You keep your musical line while others are singing the melody.  Energetically what this means is you hold your own vibration at a different level than others.

In a group, however, you're matching the music of others in your section, so you do have the strength/power of all the other altos (basses, tenors, sopranos, etc.) to match.  Alone, you learn to hold your own when others are singing the prevalent tune.

By the time I left high school, I'd sung in school choirs in four countries.  I learned to adapt to different cultures, make friends quickly, yet be ready to let go when my dad was stationed somewhere else.

What does this have to do with Harmonizing for Holiday Harmony?  Well, I've been writing about how to stay sane when visiting your (dysfunctional) family members.  Someone recently asked me how to stay serene around friends who are frenzied about Christmas.  And the answer is the same -

Set the vibration you want to be at, whether it's serenity or joy or peace.  Hold your own vibration where ever you are.  It's okay for you to be in a different space while others are going wiggy.

How do you do this?  I've several suggestions.  Imagine yourself in a bubble of gold - your own private Christmas ball.  Or pink.  Or blue. Whatever symbolizes to you the vibration of what you want to experience.  Have an emotional touchstone.  Does a particular Christmas tune or sound set it for you?  Does humming jingle bells awaken your inner child who still believes in Santa?  Does the image of Mary invoke her serene demeanor within you?

Before getting together with others, take a moment to use one of the above techniques (or one you've made up) to 'set your own tone'.  And let yourself hold it while you're with them.  It's okay for them to be emanating strident Yoko Ono sounds while you're humming the Little Drummer boy.  It's okay for them to be playing Flight of the Bumble Bee while you're ohming your way to serenity.  It's okay for their auras to be flaming red while you are fir tree green.

It's okay for you to have sanity in your head regardless of others' experience.   It's okay for you to be happy while they're sad.  Actually, it's okay for you to be sad while they're manically happy.  You can breathe and be real and you don't have to match anyone else.

Try this for the next week and see what happens!  And let me know! Joan@JoanNewcomb.com