What is happening when NOTHING is happening?

What is happening when NOTHING is happening? ©2016 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

We've all been going through tough times. Growing pains. And for many of us, no matter what we do, we don't seem to make any progress.

It just feels like one obstacle to surmount after another, and it doesn't matter what we try, we're just getting nowhere.

Field in Raszkow, Poland, photo credit: Jacek Halicki

Here's the thing -

We are all Consciousness manifesting into physical bodies. As Consciousness, things are easy and effortless. Our bodies experience density and difficulty.

Now it is possible as Consciousness to instantaneously transform. You can go from being stuck in a traffic jam to whizzing along to your intended destination just be shifting yourself from your current Universe to one where everything is unfolding in your favor.

When you're creating on a body level, it takes longer.  Our bodies exist in time and space, where change is an evolutionary process. You plant seeds, water them, wait for them to sprout.

Nothing is ever not happening, but sometimes it takes a while for change to become evident.

You might be going through soil prep (and experiencing a lot of fertilizer in your life). You may have seeds you'd forgotten you planted, germinating beneath the surface.

Or if you feeling burned out, your field may be laying fallow. You may need a period of rest before your field is ready to plant again.

When you stop doing, you can start being. Creating as Consciousness comes from a state of being.

It's a completely different approach to manifestation.

It doesn't mean sitting on your meditation cushion for hours every day chanting yourself into a state of Beingness.

It means stepping into the reality as Consciousness where you already are the changes you want to experience.

There is *a lot* going on in the world right now. People are experiencing extremes - extreme emotions, extreme challenges, and being affected by other people's extreme stresses. If you're feeling that right now, do yourself a favor and take a time out.

It may be ten minutes to go outside and walk around the block. It may be turning off your phone or TV - a "media break" for a period of time. If you listen to music, maybe give yourself a period of silence.

You don't need to be knocked about by external forces. They may be distractions that keep you from focusing within, where real transformation can happen. When you take your focus off the external world and tune into your internal world, that's where you can experience Yourself as Consciousness.

As Consciousness you know that there is enough, and that you are enough.

Bring your attention back to yourself and you might discover that there's no need to "do" anything. You can appreciate all that is going on without your efforts. You'll know, within the fiber of your Being, that all is very, very well.
.

Feeling Other's Emotions

Feeling Other's Emotions ©2014

Empathy - the ability to feel other people's feelings.  Many of us have the ability to feel other's feelings, we just don't know it!  Or if we do, it feels like a burden.

Empaths are very sensitive to their environment.  They feel the energy of restaurants and offices, parties and gatherings.  It can be challenging to drive down the freeway, when you sense all the accidents that have happened there!

If you feel an emotion out of the blue, not connected to what is going on around you or in your life, it's probably someone else's.  You can pick up loved one's feelings, even if they're 3,000 miles away.

Feelings that don't make any sense, that feel really intense, are usually someone else's communications.  They are emitting how bad they are feeling.

Sometimes they come in on familiar channels.  You may allow them in because they're a friend or loved one,  Or they may remind you of a family members.

Sometimes it's just proximity.  The guy in the apartment above yours has been laid off and is really depressed.  Even though you are happily employed, you start having a hard time getting out of bed in the morning.

People who aren't empaths will say, that must really be your emotion, you're just in denial, but I disagree.  If you live in an apartment building with too thin walls, you're neighbor's rap music at 12am is not your bedtime listening choice!

You have no control about other people's remittances but you can, believe it or not, control your ability to receive.  You can 'dial down' your emotional 'hearing'.  You can zip up the front of your chakras to help protect your space.  Imagine your lower chakras being like volume dials, and turn them down.

This may be hard for some people to do.  Their empathic ability protected them growing up.  Perhaps they had a parent that was unpredictable.  They never knew what mood they'd be in when they came home.  But they could feel them coming, and knew when to stay out of the way.

People communicate with feelings, a mother may have a hard time turning down her empathy with her children, even when they're adults.  It's important to know if your infant is in distress, but less so to feel the anxiety of your twenty-something preparing for their graduate exams!

We mistake empathy for compassion.  You can feel compassion towards someone who's suffered a shock, a loss, but it doesn't help you help them if you're expressing the same intensity of grief.

If you're rescuing a drowning man, you need to keep your own head out of the water.

Society places great expectations that we match the energy of groups.  If you're actually able to be a half-step above the emotional energy field, you can be accused of being cold or unsympathetic.  You might, however, be the only clear-headed one in the crowd, able to lead the way out of darkness.

As an empath myself, my biggest revelation has been that I get to set my own energy level.  I can decide to be a different vibration.  I can imagine my aura to be a different color, I can see myself vibrating a half step above.  I can allow a sense of amusement for whatever black comedy I'm engaged in. 

Give yourself an empathic break today.  You will find it totally transforming your life!

Fear and Anxiety

(c) 2010 Joan M. Newcomb

Just read a post on Facebook that CFL lights are bad for you; it produces "dirty electricity" that can affect diabetics and people with asthma.  They recommended LED lights instead.  And I thought, yeah, until they find something wrong with them, as well!

It's always something.  If you're not ingesting mercury while eating omega-fatty-acid rich salmon, you're getting skin cancer from vitamin D producing sunlight.  The world is a scary place and we're not going to make it out of here alive!

The truth is, your physical body isn't going to make it out of this lifetime alive, and it's your body that's most attached to survival.  The expanded aspect of You is immortal, and doesn't take such things so seriously.

What's really hilarious is that fear and anxiety cause physical problems that can shorten your lifespan!  Worry about that, why don't you?!

An acronym of fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.  We perceive the world through our mental image pictures that have emotions attached to them.  The body's core concern is survival and so it's first question before trying anything new is, 'is this going to kill me'?  When change happens, or even considering change happening, the body can run a storyline out that can falsely conclude that it will die if such and such happens.

You lose your job or relationship.  Immediately the body things that there will never be another job or relationship.  You will die penniless and unloved.  Body sees only limitation and the end of things.

You, the Essence of You, sees expansion.  You lose your job or relationship, You know there will be a better job or relationship right around the next corner.  You will be happier than you were before. 

Anxiety is paralyzing.  You can't think of solutions and can't take actions.  And for nearly every single thing that you're anxious about, it isn't going to kill you.  Even AIDS and cancer isn't necessarily going to kill you - there are people living with both for years. 

If your body is your vehicle, and You as Essence is the driver, when you're experiencing fear, you're viewing life from sitting on the bumper.  Bring your attention back to You, into your center (your "driver's seat"), and you can start to see clearly again.

One helpful way to regain perspective is to talk to your body as Your Expanded Self.  You can reassure it and comfort it.  You can be your own parent.   Taking charge of the dialogue in your head can open your eyes to infinite possibilities out there.  It's very empowering to do this!
This planet was created to be one of dichotomies.  It's meant to be the opposite of Us, the opposite of Expanded, Infinite, Joyous, Immortal, and Unlimited.  Bodies have a myriad of emotions, a limited life span, aches and pains.  If it all were a total immersion virtual game (which it is), the program would have deliberate limitations built into it.  Any time you bust loose from one area, another area will come up to work on.  "If it ain't one thing, it's something else"!

When you shift your perspective from your body/personality to Your Essence, then the game becomes fun.  Limitations don't bother you.  You immensely appreciate all of it, the beautiful and the ugly.  Your amused at the news and the weather reports.  Someone shares with you something terrible happening with them and you congratulate them (for being so capable as to have created that in their storyline).  You Love it all.

Your assignment, should you choose to accept it, is to start recognizing your fearful pictures for what they are - just pictures.  And notice how much they're reinforced by advertising and news and relatives and friends.  Change how you talk to yourself in your head and how you respond to your body.

Try this for the next seven days and see how quickly things change for the better!