Where is your nose?

©2011 Joan M. Newcomb

It's been an intense time for many people.  We are collectively going through an Emergence.  You can see it as our Consciousness vibration raising, or a deeper integration with our Expanded Selves. 

What doesn't match this higher vibration is becoming unbearable.  It is showing up differently in each of our lives.  For some it is long-term relationships with friends or family as we've outgrown the patterns we used to share.  For some it is their career, either feeling stuck in their job, or being laid off and unable to find another in their industry (because in reality their work is not in integrity with their Purpose).  And around the globe you can see governments breaking down that are stuck in old, restrictive patterns.

There's a lot going on to distract you from your own growth.

Even if you're part of a group that is in a similar expansion - say you're among the unemployed, or you live in Egypt - you still have your own unique process.  The group can be supportive, if it's moving forward or raising vibration.  It can be limiting if it's representing stuckness.

It can be confusing to know what is your own information and energy amongst everyone else.  Here's some clues -

Your own emotions feel clear to you.  If it's your anger, it feels clear and pure.  If you're joyous or happy, you're on the right path, connected with Source. 

If you feel distorted, disconnected, highly dramatic or confused, you're energy is mingling with others or bumping up against external restrictions.

Energetically, there's some techniques for maintaining separation when in groups or in collective situations.  Have the sense of 'owning your space', your energy bubble or aura.  Just a sense of ownership can define your awareness from other's reality.  You can also imagine being a 'half step above' other's vibratory levels.  A fun way to do this is to imagine your aura is a different color than everyone else.  (Teenagers with their IPods do this musically).

It's also helpful to know what is your business and what's not.  What goes on in someone else's life is none of your business - even if you're a spouse or sibling or child.  They're Infinite Beings, capable of creating their own reality.  They have their own connection to Source.  They have their own Guardian Angels.  (This is great for dealing with ex-relationships and for young adult children.  They get to have the consequences of their own actions, too).

Figure out, where is your nose?  If your nose is into someone else's life, you get to experience their craziness, too.  Does that benefit you? Does it help you resolve your own issues? Is it moving you forward on your path? Notice where your nose is, and turn it towards your own life.

When you're driving, you have a tendency to steer where you're looking.  If you're looking towards the dark side of things, you're steering yourself there.  If you're looking at your neighbor's life, you're steering into their lane.  Look in the direction where you are going, you'll avoid any potholes in the road ahead. 

So, this week notice if you're feeling clear or crazy.  Notice if you're thinking about solutions to your own issues or about other people's Stuff.  If you keep your eye on the destination you desire, you're more likely to end up there!

Detachment, Space, Separations and Unity

©2008 Joan M Newcomb

I have many tools and techniques in my spiritual toolkit from different origins. There seems to be a thread of Truth through every belief system and practice. It's our individual journey to discover it for ourselves.

In my original training, I learned about space - we each have our individual auras and to be able to create our own reality we needed to separate others' energies from our own. It sometimes had a bit of a rigid interpretation which was difficult to maintain. After all, how do you separate your energy from your newborn? How can you fall in love if you don't allow merging of space?

Then I learned about detachment - how to detach from a loved one's crazy making behavior in order to regain a sense of sanity.

Most recently I've been learning about holographic reality that everyone is your projection or reflection, so they're not real or really there. They're just extras in your personal movie. It's a little harder to wrap one's head around this idea, especially if you're psychic and can feel people's thoughts and feelings from 3,000 miles away.

When you consider that this is all a game created by Consciousness, to experience the opposite of itself, then every player at their essence is Consciousness, is One, and the individual is just an illusion created for the fun of knowing what diversity feels like.

However, we can't get in touch with our inner sense of Oneness if we're distracted by others who are playing different versions of the Human Game. So this is where detachment and separations comes in helpful.

Allowing others to have their own life experiences and the consequences of their actions is beneficial for their own growth and your own sanity. If you never allow your toddler to fall down, they'll never learn to walk. The same goes for adult children, siblings, other relatives, and friends. If you're focused on the way others are living their lives, you'll never live your own.

I learned detachment when my children were young, because they lived every other week with their father. I decided that what went on in his household was none of my business, which gave me the space to focus on creating my own home life with them on the weeks they were with me. I also realized that each of my children were wise and immortal Beings with their individual connection to Source, inherently knowing the direction of their personal path in this life time. This helped me a lot as they grew up and made choices about creating their own life stories. And it's given me joy to see them surprise me with the things they do create!

The other day I had a conversation with my mother who has a very different worldview than I do. She's a staunch Republican (Conservative), a life long Protestant Christian, and a retired information officer for the CIA. We're lightyears apart and yet have a good relationship based on respecting each other's space -- although she wouldn't use those words.

There are others whose lives are full of chaos and unhappiness and this is where I practice detachment. I spent many years of pain and depression until I learned to step away from their reality. You can't change, fix or control another choice of reality, you can only contribute to it or enable it to stay the same. Detaching allows you to separate You from them.

There are different energy techniques for separation, you can visualize you being in your bubble (aura) and them being in theirs, you can imagine their energy that's in your space flowing back to them (and vice versa). I like the Serenity Prayer for helping me to determine what's mine and what's not (Italics are my comments):

Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change
(other people, places and things)
Courage to change the things I can
My attitude and focus
And the wisdom to know the difference
me - not me - me - not me!

Serenity is the feeling you gain when you let go people and their effect on you.

My invitation today is to notice your where your attention is and how you feel when you're focused outside of your own reality!