Showing posts with label inspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label inspiration. Show all posts

Friday, July 7, 2017

Why Inspiration From Seminars Doesn't Last (and what to do about it)

Why Inspiration From Seminars Doesn't Last (and what to do about it) ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

Remember that last seminar, workshop or retreat you attended? Remember how wonderful it felt? What happened to that rosy glow after you came home? It kinda faded off, didn't it?

You got back into your daily routine, with work and relationships, and pretty soon you could barely remember all that marvelous transformation that happened, and all those great revelations you had.

That's why it's called 'The Suntan Affect'.

Seminars, workshops, and retreats are chock full of great information, they're designed to inspire change. While you're sitting there with a group, you feel a magnified effect from everyone going through the same experience.

When you come home, however different you may feel at first, you start to match your familiar surroundings and go back to your old ways of being.

It's especially frustrating when you learned new techniques to make things happen, and even they seem to lose their magic after a while.

When I used to teach Psychic Meditation classes, I'd tell people that you could get all these tools and concepts in a weekend workshop, but it's a little like learning golf in one afternoon. The reason to take an 8 or 12 week class is that repetition helps make it real for your body.

You as Consciousness already know everything. You *are* the Cosmic Internet. But not everything is stored into your physical form (that includes your mind and brain). Whatever was downloaded from a weekend doesn't stick unless you continue to put it into action.

The other thing that an 8 or 12 week class provides is the power of a group. You're with others who are learning the same things, and their experiences reinforce yours as well.

Most importantly, you have continued access to the teacher, who embodies and models whatever it is you want to learn. Regular contact with them helps make it real for you as well.

When I teach, I have you try any technique first before explaining what it's supposed to do or how you're supposed to feel. This way you have your own sense of what a particular technique can do for you. People have come away from my trainings with greater ownership of what they've learned, because it's anchored in their initial experience rather than my information about it.

Nowadays, I combine my teaching with coaching. I prefer coaching, because it holds you as whole and capable. It honors your inner wisdom. If you have a problem, then you hold the solution within. As coach I can ask the right questions to bring it out of you. This allows you to change faster than if you were told to do something (thereby having to go through someone else's information) which then takes longer before you've integrated it into your own way of doing things.

Rather than one-off sessions, I prefer to offer 12 week programs (although for groups I've had them as short as 6-8 weeks). This way I can hold space for your evolution over time.

As Consciousness you already know everything, you just haven't brought it into your body yet or practiced utilizing the information through your body. Even though I provide my upgraded and developed techniques for transformation, You'll have your own unique way of expressing your new learning, you'll bring your own unique results into your life.

Now, if you've just come from a seminar or workshop and there isn't any followup in place, you can try to create continuity on your own. Read the presenter's books, watch their YouTube videos, join (or create) a Meetup group to connect with others on the same topic.

And, if you are tired of spinning your wheels and want lasting change in your life, go to my website and check out my coaching programs!

Friday, June 23, 2017

How to Know If It's Time To Pivot

How to Know If It's Time To Pivot ©2017 Joan M. Newcomb, CPC

You know when things just suck and you want to throw in the towel? Or maybe you're at a breaking point. Or maybe you are done, like, "stick a fork in me, I'm done!" kind of done.

Or maybe you've been stuck in indecision, or maybe you're stuck in persistence. That is, trying so hard for so long, but not wanting to give up trying.

How do you know if you need to keep slogging at it, or pivot in another direction?

Sometimes decisions require immediate action, and sometimes a solution needs to emerge.

Several months ago I felt like I was at a turning point. I felt burned out with what I was doing. I was wondering whether to quit this and become a hospice chaplain. I'd actually applied for chaplaincy training back in 2001 and backed out at the last minute. It's something I could do now, as a 'real world job' that wouldn't take the same energy my current calling requires. Or so I thought.

Then I got chosen to give a talk at Ignite Seattle,  out of *lots* of applicants. Which felt like a nudge to continue.

Ignite Seattle happened just before a scheduled trip to Europe to visit my son, so I decided to let my decision "float" while I was gone. I thought I'd get inspiration while I was on vacation.

Instead, I came back to the same issue. The same feeling of burnout and frustration.

And then this week my 15 year old Corgi was diagnosed with cancer and we've been doing doggie home hospice for her. It's brought up a ton of feelings from 2013 when I helped our other dog, and both my parents, each die at home. And I got really clear about that part of the decision.

Emma dying on my kitchen floor helps me shut that door. No way do I want to work in hospice. Or hospitals, actually. So ditch that idea (what was I thinking)?!?

This reminds me of times where something happens that is the turning point, the straw that breaks the camel's back, when I wouldn't have let go or given up until then.

So instead of doing a summer chaplaincy training, I'm midwifing my dog to spirit. That's requiring a lot of focus, but it won't need to be sustained for a long time.

I still get energized by speaking and teaching, I'm still passionate about helping people transform. But the way I've been doing it needs to change.

In the old days a door would have slammed shut. In the old days bridges would have burned.

Navigating in this new Consciousness, is a more gentle way. Simply releasing the past and allowing the new path to appear.

So if you're struggling, if you feel like you are spinning your wheels, if you are stuck in a traffic jam or hitting a brick wall, stop. You don't have to blow up the blocks.

Just step back and let the scenario change. Or step into a parallel universe where it's already different.