©2013 Joan M Newcomb
Ever felt you were in between a rock and a hard place? Your job, your relationship, your home, your family, felt immovable and unchanging. Yet the alternative was equally unappealing.
People usually stay stuck because their current situation is familiar. Even if it's uncomfortable, there's a sense of security in what is known.
People stay in jobs because of the economy, of bills and financial obligations, because they're afraid of poverty. If they quit their job, they could lose their house or their car.
People stay in relationships for similar reasons, financial dependency. Or everyone thinks they're the perfect couple. Or fear of being along, single, having to date again. Change is scary.
Or maybe it's not the job or relationship, it's their perception of the job or relationship. They want to leave, to do a 'geographical'. But, wherever you go, there you are.
The feeling of discomfort indicates that something needs to change. It indicates that you are vibrationally out of sync with your surroundings.
What can you do?
You can't change others, you can only change yourself. But, you can leave your relationship and create another with similar problems. You can quit your job, and the next one could be more fraught with conflict.
What can you do when you're in a dark place, with no light at the end of it?
You can be the light in your own darkness. You don't need to change your relationship, you don't need to leave your job. By changing yourself, your circumstances naturally change.
Sometimes your partner becomes everything you've always wanted, because you've stopped projecting that they're not. Sometimes things fall into place with your job, the boss gets transferred, your raise comes through. Simply by changing your energy, your environment shifts, too.
Whatever isn't in agreement with your new vibratory level, adjusts or leaves without you having to do anything.
But what if you kept yourself static out of fear you'll be abandoned? What if you stayed in your job out of fear of being fired or laid off?
Whatever happens, space is created for something new or better.
If you run away, you're running towards what you fear. If you stand still (not static, but growing inside), change eminates through all aspects of reality.
When you are between a rock and a hard place, you can still grow. Working on yourself first assures that you'll not recreate the same thing elsewhere.
Pretty amazing transformation occurs, seemingly effortlessly, when you stop looking outside yourself.
For the next 7 days: Turn within. Keep the focus on yourself. Know what is 'your business'. Change what you can (=what's yours).
And see what happens!