(c) 2010 Joan M. Newcomb
There's the Law of Attraction and the Power of Positive Thinking, which are valid spiritual tools that many people misinterpret. One common mistake with Law of Attraction is to place one's focus totally on what one desires, so they're not energetically "home" to receive it! You have to put your request out, and then let go of it, because holding on to it keeps it as a dream. Only in truly letting go can you allow the manifestation to come to you.
With the Power of Positive Thinking, people can be so focused on the positive that they're in denial that they have any negative feelings at all. Putting a cheery smile on one's face and ignoring uncomfortable feelings doesn't make them go away, and doesn't help you create what you want. Abraham-Hicks has an 'emotional scale' people can use to feel one's way up from despair to joy.
With Robert Scheinfeld's Busting Loose work, he has what he calls The Process. Whenever you feel any discomfort, you let yourself really feel it. When it builds to a crescendo, you interrupt (or break through) it by stating that you're The Power & Presence of God, or Consciousness creating everything down to the smallest detail. You 'reclaim power' from the illusion, and then appreciate what a wonderful illusion it was!
The trick is to do the Process without any agenda or wish to change, fix or improve the hologram.
People get stuck in a couple of places with this. They get stuck in fully feeling the feelings, but not breaking through them. And they forget to appreciate the illusion. They think they have to feel better before they appreciate, but just saying the words even if you don't think you mean them, helps. Even just reminding yourself that you're Consciousness creating this down to the smallest detail helps enormously.
When you're wallowing in Density & Effort, you've forgotten that you're the Infinite Being who created all of this. When you remember Who You Are, you'll find the situation funny or exciting. Infinite Beings love challenges (as well as creative story plots)!
Do you perpetuate your own wallowing?
In the summer of 2004, when I was following Abraham-Hicks, I realized that I was always making up conversations in my head with people, telling them how terrible my life was. There was nobody there! I was making it all up! I was telling a sob-story over and over in between my ears. I was perpetuating my own misery!
From then on, whenever I noticed myself starting to daydream that way, I'd figuratively grab myself by the ears and change the subject. And within a couple of weeks I found myself lifting out of a depression I hadn't acknowledged but been in for years.
This isn't the same as the Positive Thinking mistake of denying emotions, it's not making up stressful thoughts that create negative feelings.
Which part of you is wallowing in Density & Effort anyway? Certainly not your Expanded Self/Spirit/Consicousness. It's the the Player, the personality or as Eckhart Tolle calls it, the Pain Body. The part that isn't You. The part that believes Density & Effort is real, and that it's helpless to do anything about it. When you identify with that part, you're letting it drive. Is it really mature enough to have a license?
Wallowing is different than grieving, and different than peeling layers of the onion or dismantling layers of the cloud cover. There's no growth or forward movement when wallowing.
How do you stop wallowing? Grab yourself by the ears and tell a different story! Act like your Expanded Self. Remind yourself you're Consciousness, even if it feels like going through the motions. Dive *through* the feelings to the other side.
Try this for a week and see what happens!