Friday, February 24, 2012


©2012 Joan M. Newcomb 

At the Oscars, Emmys, etc. they have 'place holders', people who step in to fill the seats of stars when they go up to accept awards, so that when the camera pans the audience it doesn't show any empty spots.


It got me thinking about place holding in other places.  Not the real person who belongs in that 'seat', whether it's a job or relationship, but someone who is filling the space for the time being.

Sometimes we're the placeholders.  We take a job just for the money, but not because it's our passion.  However, someone out there could be perfect for it, because they *love* bookkeeping, cleaning houses, cubicle office work, etc. (I'm obviously including examples based on my own bias).

We get into relationships that are missing key important, non-negotiable qualities and we make do with them.  Those people are our place holders, filling the seat, but they're not the right fit.

What would the world be like if we did a big musical chairs, and everyone went for the seat right for them?

This is what is happening in the world today, everyone is being unseated from jobs, relationships, houses, social groups, that are not in alignment with who They truly are.  Some people are going willingly, risking their 401k to quit a job they've always hated.  Some people feel the Universe is doing it to them, when their bank forecloses on their house.

In truth, it's Your Essence, Inner Being, Higher Self, Higher Power, Universe, God, that is creating the change.  You are being called to resonate as You, and that is too high a vibration for any limitation.  The discomfort is too great.

Can you be in a place holding seat and change it?   

The solution is ownership.  If you feel you've been place holding in your marriage, own being there instead.  Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions, rather than focusing on your partner's.  Perhaps you've been fantasizing their demise, so you can move on to someone else without having a messy divorce... what kind of energy does that contribute?

Think about the qualities you want in a relationship, whether or not the other person has them.  Either your partner will change, or the relationship will naturally end so the right person will show up.

Having an affair is running away from what is, and doesn't resolve things.  Usually within two years you've recreated the misery you were trying to avoid.

Same with work situations, quitting one job without fully owning what kind of work environment you want, and finding the next one has even more challenges.

Often you already have exactly what you want, but lack of ownership makes you look elsewhere.  

And sometimes you have to lose everything to move to the next level, whatever that is.

It isn't a loss, it's opening up to gaining something more.  We lose our little ego-land and gain the whole world.

You don't have to get rid of your place holders, as you change your vibration they will change or leave of their own accord.  

You don't necessarily have to get out of the chair you are sitting in, it may in reality be your meditation cushion towards something bigger than you can imagine.

Stop place-holding in your life and be the star that actually belongs in it.

Try this for a week and see how your Universe transforms!

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